So after my rant last post about how nothing ever works in my favor yet I just want the easy way out I think I'm long over due for a post to repair things.
Sometimes I read back on my posts and think...God I'm so annoying. And I thank all of those who a) did reply so politely or b) didn't reply and tell me to shut the hell up.
After I wrote the last post I did some research and did find that IUI isn't half as expensive as IVF and that it is quite do-able. Nor is it as high maintenance or invasive. Which did make me feel better. But I think someone hit it on the head that really what I'm probably in denial of is the fact that going through IVF or IUI for that matter takes a real emotional toll on a person and as much as we plan...(as I sit here an drink 8 oz. of grapefruit juice) or beg or plead for that matter, the bottom line is, just because you forked over hundreds of dollars and/or did everything right it may or may not happen. So why bother worrying over it? Well you know as well as I do, that's just not an option. There's no talking an infertile out of not thinking about her infertility. No matter what the problem is.
And so that brings me to my other biggest fear, which is am I just wasting my time with IUI? IUI sounds like the perfect low cost, achievable option. But...does it work? All I ever read is about success with IVF. I see it in people's history lists...so much that for a long time I thought IUI was just some hormonal therapy that people did to prepare for IVF. I didn't realize that IUI was something that could turn into a real live child.
Now I know some of you are thinking well of course it can! Look at me! But I've gone through lists of blogs and have so far found only one, which I added to my blog roll, that has success with IUI. To which I honestly almost wrote Stirrupqueen and said she needs one more list of "Pregnancy with IUI" and "Pregnancy with IVF" lists, to make this research a little more streamlined. I know there is more out there but I've only been through about 5 or 6 blogs out of her list and started at the top of Pregnancy with IUI or IVF, to which I will continue later this week.
But with that said, I'd like to request that you all be so bold to put my naive ass into place, by referring blogs you have found to have had success with IUI specifically. I would love nothing more than to read story after story of success with IUI (preferably not John&Kate style - yes G. that is crazy). I think that should certainly get me out of this funk of uncertainly and most of all whining.
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I haven't done the research for that, but you may check out www3 dot fertilethoughts dot com - go to IF boards, then IUI section. There's a good list of success stories there.
There really isnt a lot of rhyme or reason why IUI worked for us, but it did. (ended in stillbirth, but that was because of my uterine anomaly, not the IUI).
Are you going in to be scanned for follicle growth this time through?
Me! Me! I'm pregnant from an IUI! There are a lot of us out there, I swear. You're just getting a very skewed picture of the world because you're focusing purely on blogs.
The thing to keep in mind is that precisely what makes IUI so appealing as compared to IVF (the protocol is simpler, the monitoring is simpler, the procedure itself is simpler, it's cheaper, the advance planning required is days instead of weeks, etc.) also makes IUI far less dramatic, and thus it's just not as interesting blog-wise. With proper dosing and monitoring, the odds of multiples are also MUCH lower than with standard IVF, so that also makes it less dramatic. Also, since most people start with IUI, the ones who succeed tend to be relatively new blogs, whereas the more established blogs, the ones who have been around for a while and have large readerships, are the ones for whom IUI didn't work and they've gone on to do IVF instead.
I'm not saying that IUI is a magic bullet. It was my 3rd IUI that eventually worked, and there are certainly no guarantees. But it does work, for a lot of people. It's just more "quiet," so those people just aren't as well represented in the sample of blogs you're looking at. Hang in there!
Unfortunately, I don't know of any blogs where people succeeded with IUI specifically. Call me a horrible person, but I tend to avoid blogs by people with kids. And I have had two failed IUI's myself.
But...get a load of this... I know two REAL LIVE people who got babies from IUI's - one on the first try, and the other on their second. So, it can be done!
And I agree with the less invasive, less expensive, etc. etc. etc. After a cancelled IVF last fall, my two IUI's were a walk in the park.
I can only think of one blog-writer (other than Megan, who you found on your own) that is pregnant via IUI (KatieM at The Unlikely Life -- she has a second, pregnancy-focused blog that went invite-only), but I frequent some boards on iVillage's Pregnancy and Parenting area, and there are a ton of women who are pregnant after IUI. So it does work. Though, as with anything else, it can take a few tries. Good luck deciding what to do (and here's hoping this cycle is successful, allowing you to avoid deciding).
I totally hear you on the lack of guarantee that all the $$$ will actually lead anywhere.
None of my medicated cycles or my one IUI got me success. BUT... many have had different outcomes.
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